I will call on the day I’m notified of your loved one’s death to explain anything that you are unsure of and to arrange a “meeting” of family, friends and loved ones. Currently (October 2020) this has to take place by phone, Skype, FaceTime or Zoom though it may be possible to meet at a funeral directors’ rooms.
This call normally takes place within 24–48 hours. My job is to put you at your ease and to listen as you share stories and memories.
We will discuss music, poetry and any other readings you might want at the ceremony.
If anyone is unable to attend, I can call them later to hear their stories.
I take your memories and stories and write them into a service to honour your loved one – the key words for me are “dignity, respect and sensitivity” but I will also try to bring in moments of humour where appropriate.
I don’t use “templates” to write my services – they’re all written individually.
I will let you see my draft in advance so you can ensure that it is accurate and complete. This allows you the chance to make changes at the last moment. I will call before the ceremony to check that all is well.
On the day, I will deliver the ceremony with calm conviction – my aim is that this last ceremony does justice to the life of your loved one.
For the duration of the current COVID-19 lockdown, I am developing online funeral ceremonies that can be conducted through Zoom – it isn’t ideal but it may be a way to bring people together at this difficult time
I can discuss such options as having the service recorded and I will ensure you receive a copy of the eulogy after the service if required Currently, services are still going ahead (with restricted numbers) but I am also working on ways to conduct funeral ceremonies online.